✧ for you, not about me ✧
the discretion guide ♡
my opsec is excellent. the weak link is your calendar app. this site keeps no account, no trackers, and deletes your handle 30 days after we meet — so let's get your side of the ledger equally tidy.
your phone is a snitch
write me on signal, and set a username first so you're not handing out your phone number. turn on disappearing messages (a week is plenty). don't save me as a contact — your phone syncs contacts to more clouds than you think — the booking reference is all you ever need to mention. and switch off notification previews; the lock screen is not a private place.
money that minds its own business
monero exists precisely so that your bank statement stays a shopping list instead of a diary. if you buy XMR on a big exchange, move it to your own wallet before it moves anywhere else — paying anyone straight from your exchange account staples your name to the payment, which defeats the whole point. the monero page has the gentle on-ramp.
calendars & clouds
don't put my name in your calendar. don't put anyone's name in your calendar — "gym" has survived a thousand audits. screenshots sync to photo clouds; the confirmation page works fine without one, and your reference code is eight characters — memorise it like a gentleman. browsers have private windows for a reason, and this site works beautifully in one (we set no trackers either way).
in person
be punctual — loitering is conspicuous. discretion runs both directions: i don't acknowledge clients in public, ever, and i expect the same courtesy. what do i do with your data after we meet? mostly nothing, then literally nothing: the handle is purged within 30 days, and i don't keep a little black book. the safest database is the one that doesn't exist.
what a subpoena would find
here? a reference code and a slot time. no name, no message history, no payment trail with your face on it — monero saw to that, and the purge job ate the rest. what it would find on your phone is your business — which is exactly why this page exists. make it boring ♡