after eric hughes, with lipgloss. written to be screenshotted ♡
i. my body is mine
what i do with it, and who i share my time with, is a matter between consenting adults — not a business model for platforms, not a case file for compliance departments, not a line item in somebody's risk score. autonomy isn't granted. it's asserted.
ii. privacy is not secrecy
secrecy is hiding what you do. privacy is owning who gets to see it. i'm not hiding — i'm choosing. a curtain is not a confession, and wanting one doesn't make either of us guilty of anything except good taste.
iii. discretion is consent's quiet twin
everything about my work runs on consent: enthusiastic, informed, revocable. the surveillance economy runs on the opposite — collect first, ask never, forget nothing. i refuse to build my little corner of the internet on non-consent. no trackers, no profiles, no files. the same courtesy i expect in a room, i extend to a database.
iv. nobody voted for the compliance department
when a bank closes a working girl's account, when a processor blacklists 'adult services', when a payment app decides which consenting adults may pay each other — that is not protection. that is an unelected morality police with a spreadsheet, enforcing laws no parliament ever passed. financial surveillance is tyranny's polite little sister, and she always knocks on our doors first.
v. cash never asked questions
for almost all of human history, money changed hands and minded its own business. the panopticon is the new thing, not the privacy. monero isn't radical — it's a restoration. digital cash that works the way cash always did: yours, private, final, nobody's business.
vi. i keep no files on you
what i don't store can't be leaked, sold, or subpoenaed. one handle to reach you, deleted within 30 days of our date. my privacy and yours are the same project — my incentives aren't 'aligned' with you, they're identical.
vii. shame is a tax i refuse to pay
and i won't collect it from you either. you are not a 'risk category'. you're a person taking a lovely person (me ♡) to dinner. the oldest profession doesn't need rehabilitating — the institutions that treat adults like suspects do.
viii. the future is bright pink and encrypted
i want a world where nobody explains their friday nights to a database. i can't build all of it. but i can build this: a booking that's guaranteed, a payment that's private, a record that expires, and an evening that's ours. one date at a time ✧